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It’s been a while and now I am sandwiched.

Thursday, January 27th, 2011

I have hand written blog entries, thought about blog entries, wanted to list a few things and say a few things but, alas, it has take a few months to do it.

I, actually, had to relearn how to post.

Well, it’s a snow day and boy oh boy am I happy about that. I’ll still run my new mom’s groups but NOT HAVING to get the kids up, ready for school, dog walked  and everyone out the door (let’s add a parent-teacher meeting this morning) before 8 is a huge relief. I will also add that life has taken a way too busy turn.

You know when the baby boom media talks about the sandwiched generation? Well, here I am.  Sandwiched between my parent’s declining well-being and my kids struggling preadolescence. And this is where it sits, let alone what it feels like when i project into the future and start predicting stuff.

I asked my kids, “How do you define being a grown up”?  Their answers were “when you can tell someone else what to do”, “when you can do what you want” , “when you can drive”.  Their answers are very reminicent.  The feeling of freedom, of choice, of independence.  I think as a kid I  had those feelings, too;  “when I can wear makeup, when I can go to bed when I want”.  However as an adult,  a defining moment of being “grown up” has been caring for my aging parents. Some might say that’s strange since I became a mom years befoe that happened.  I had been in the work place and on my own even fruther back.  The  first, concrete,  glimpse at being gown up, or maybe an adult in a new way, was when my mom had open heart surgery about 8 years ago.  I remember bathing her and her allowing me to help.  Her revealing her vulnerability and letting me assist. WOW! She let me take care of her.  It was profound, sad, sweet, and moving.

Fast forward to today. My parent’s wellness is on an obvious decline. While they balance the tightrope of being able to be independent (sort of) and could easily be completely dependent on the other side.  A moment, and hour a day makes the difference. As the adult child, I am needing to shift constantly.  What my parent’s don’t realize is how much I do for them and how much more they need done. I have found a big part of  my role with them is to care with respect.  I don’t want them to think they are burdening me, I don’t want them to give up ALL aspects of independence, but there are times that they need to know this is either too much for me, or too much for them.

A great challenge to me is balancing this and the emotional (and logistical) tug  of my kid’s growing needs (school, behavioral, relationships, food/shelter etc) with my parents growing needs (0versight, safety nets, backup plans etc).While my kids are entering their middle school years, academics have taken on a new look and behavioral changes or exaggerations are precarious. If you are partnered, the relationship can be strained during this time or can be a strong piece to holding it all together.

Oh, have I forgot to mention my New Mom’s Groups, my private practice, my sleep consultations work? I have really cut down on promoting my practice.  I am fortunate I am partnered with some wonderful places that do the administrative pieces: the outreach etc (Prenatal Yoga Center, Discovery Programs, Wiggles and Giggles Playhouse and Bread and Yoga), but my involvement with pulling in people has had to give.  I have whittled my practice down to the essence, lending support, assisting new moms and parents in identifying and building on their strengths as women, moms, dads and parents.  Sometimes we just need to know we are on the right course or need some support in steering the ship from an outside perspective. well, that’s no different for moms and dads of school aged and adolescent kids, or of adults taking care of their aging parents.

Whatever adult stage of development one is  in there are challenges and joyful moments. Each needing to be acknowledged for what it is (emotional, logistic, financial, pure, muddled, whatever). I need to remember that I am not in control of all things around me and that my daily life with my kids have all these components  (sometimes in the moment and sometimes with some perspective) and even my relationship with my folks at this point still hold all of these components.  This is what life looks like for me right now.  Much I am overwhelmed by, some of which is me, some of which is the situation.

So, how do I take care of myself during all of this. It’s is very easy to disconnect, to retreat.  I feel a bit flat, socially, sometimes. Like, when you are a new mom- you’re home with the baby and it’s like WHOA! How’d this happen? Where’s the light at the end of the tunnel? But as you reach out to others, talk, connect, take in the support, care, love (where you can) those feeling of self appreciation and care build. So, while you still might have struggles with nursing or your baby still might not be sleeping, the support around you helps  hold up and build your own self confidence.

I do believe reaching out for support and finding the right people to surround yourself with can give the journey perspective and insight.  Can help build one’s own confidence and to help feel cared for (while caring for all these other people and situations). Life is messy much of the time, can be uncomfortable and can require more from you that you think is possible. I need to remember I do have my limits, I will do nothing perfectly but I can do things to the best of my ability (which has its variables).

So, perhaps if I am part of the sandwiched generation, the supports and  friendships are the condiment.

New York New and Expectant Mothers Event

Sunday, May 2nd, 2010

So- I was a part of the new and expectant moms event, yesterday.  It was sponsored by New York Family. I shared my table with Katie Kheil one of the dance instructors (and moms)  of Discovery Program (100th and West End).  Their program has been around since the 70s and provides programing for families from newborn through adolescents. Mommy/daddy and me, movement, dance, support, parenting programs and more  www.discoveryprogram.com

I got to see past participants from my groups and sleep clients on to their own mother-business ventures.  I have always felt that mother hood gives birth to new and different careers, as well.

I got to see friends and colleagues like Deb Flashenberg Prenatalyoga.com from Preantal Yoga Center, Felina from the Upper Breast Side www.upperbreastside, Joanna and Bianca from Metro Minis (www.metrominis.com), Laura Heller from babyfingers (www.mybabyfingers.com). I met Lance of  NYC Dads Group, which is “an active group of involved fathers in NYC”.  Tracy Gary from intuition-nutrition.com . I got to meet people in person who I have only had a virtual connection with.  People like Lara Paul from ikidsny www.ikidny.com, The car seat lady thecarseatlady.com and more

This is the first of one of these “trade show”  events I have embarked on.  I smiled a lot, schmoozed and collected a lot of goodies from the other tables.  They even had a free Gelato booth.  NO sugar for me tho, I kept a safe distance.

I also got to see a lot of my “past new moms”.  We are talking like moms onto their 2nd or 3rd baby- the oldest being 7 years and me feeling like the proud “grandma”- YIKES : )

I have been providing support and services to new moms and families for over  10 years.  Prior to this, I had worked with individuals and families; facilitating groups and providing service, for another 10 years. WOW, I’ve been at this a while. But it’s interesting, or maybe not.  It always feels new.

This work is something quite precious to me about working with a new mom or parent or family.  There is usually such an openness, a desire and need and want to build community around you and your (new) family. Each relationship, each family unit, each group of new moms finds a different energy and a different need and it’s great to be a part of this growth, inquiry and connection.

Thank you Mommies and New Families and Happy Mother’s Day!

Upper East Side and Inwood Groups and Events

Tuesday, March 30th, 2010

Metro Minis: New Mom’s Support Group- with Jessica Shapley

Wednesdays at 12pm starting April 14 at 12pm
6 session series
$120

http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

Bread and Yoga: New Mom’s Support Group - with Jessica Shapley http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

Tuesdays at 12:30 – Spring session begins April 20th

For moms and their babies, newborn-6 months

Topics in the group include: Mom and baby  wellness, breast  feeding,  bottle  feeding, sleep issues, staying at home versus working outside the home, isolation, childcare, family life, self image & more. Be a part of a growing community of new  families right here in  your neighborhood

Sleep Workshop – Tuesday, April 6th at 11am http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

Explore sleep solutions for the whole family. A talk for parents with babies newborn-12 months. We’ll talk about schedules techniques for calming age appropriate expectations and more……..plenty of time for questions

Infant Massage Workshop - Sunday, April 18th at 2pm http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

For parents and caregivers with babies newborn to pre-crawling
Massage is great addition to your toolbox of techniques to soothe and bond with your baby. Massage assists with sleep, colic, communication and relaxation.  Learn the techniques, routine and benefits of massaging your baby.
Infant Massage is taught in a relaxed, hands-on, one hour session. It is a gift each parent will be able to share with their child throughout a lifetime.
  • Please bring and extra blanket
  • dress your baby in 2 piece outfit
  • bring food grade vegetable oil (ie. olive oil, grape seed oil)

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

Winter Newsy-Ness…

I am bringing New Mom’s Groups and New Parent Programing to you.  My goal is to connect mothers and families, answer questions and ease transitions.  I provide sleep workshops, teach infant massage and facilitate new mother support groups around the city, in a neighborhood near you.

I am thrilled to add The Discovery Program in Morningside Heights to my list of venues.  This is a wonderful program that has provided programing for families for over thirty years. Morningside Heights has continued to grow into a wonderful family centered community.  I am happy to join their commitment to serving new moms and families in and near Morningside Heights.  With the New Mother Support Groups moms will find their power to embrace the journey.  See you in the neighborhood.

Jessica

Schedules: Programs and Places

Discovery Program Morningside Heights
New Mom Support Group
www.discoveryprogram.com
251 West 100th Street
New Mom’s Support Group
Wednesday February 3 at 12:30
$155
Attention: This is NOT a drop-in class! | Pre-registration required
212-749-8717

Prenatal Yoga Center: UWS
prenatalyogacenter.com
West 72nd Street
http://www.prenatalyogacenter.com/cmps_index.php?page=events
212-362-2985

  • New Mom Support Group for moms with babies newborn-6 months

Attention: This is NOT a drop-in class! Pre-registration required
Mondays Class
Thursdays Class
both 2:30-3:30pm | 8 weeks | $155
Next Monday group: February 8 – April 19 (no meeting 2/15, 3/1, 3/29)
Next Thursday group: March 11 – May 6 (no meeting 4/1)

212-362-2985
http://www.prenatalyogacenter.com/cmps_index.php?page=events

  • Mom Support Group- Settling Baby: Settling Mommy(for moms with babies 5-12 months)

Attention: This is NOT a drop-in class! | Pre-registration required
$155 for new participants | DISCOUNT! $135 for returning 0-6 month group members
Mondays, 4-5pm | 8 weeks
February 8 – April 19 (no meeting 2/15, 3/1, 3/29)
212-362-2985 for discount!
http://www.prenatalyogacenter.com/cmps_index.php?page=events

Kripalu Lenox Ma
The Pelvic Floor and More
http://www.kripalu.org/program/view/YTEW-101/yoga_therapy_the_pelvic_floor_and_more

Bread and Yoga Studio Inwood
4951 Braodway at 207th 212 569 4112

  • Sleep Workshop Jan 12
  • Infant Massage January 26th at 12:30 to registser call 212 569 4112  $25 in advance, $30 at door
  • New Mom’s Support Group Feb 2 at 12:30. This is not a drop in class $125 to register call 212 569 4112
    ask about discounts if you sign up for more than one of Jessica

Wiggles and Giggles Playhouse Washington Heights
West 181st St at Riverside Dr 212 543 2393

  • Sleep Workshop for babies newborn-1 year January 21 at 12:15 register with Wiggles and Giggles 212 543-2393
  • New Mom’s Support Group Weds 11:30-12:30 Feb 3 $125 8sessions
  • Infant Massage

Metro Minis: UES
821 Park Ave at 75th
212-313 9600
http://store.metrominis.net/index.php

  • New Mother’s Support Group begins March 1 at 11:30 $125 Register with momsupport 212-781-6368
  • Sleep Workshop January 27 12:30 ($20 pre pay, $25 at door) http://store.metrominis.net/index.php
  • Infant Massage January 30 3pm http://store.metrominis.net/index.php


Program Descriptions:

  • New Mother’s Support Groups: 8 session series for moms with babies newborn-5 months

A facilitated support and discussion group for moms with their babies (newborn – 6 months)
Find the power to embrace the journey of motherhood with confidence and connect with new moms just like you. Share experiences, ask questions, and make supportive friendships.
Topics include:
mom and baby wellness
breastfeeding/bottle feeding
introduction to solids
sleep issues
staying at home versus working outside the home
isolation
childcare
family life
self image, and more.

  • Settled Mother’s Support Groups: 8 sessions series for mothers with babies 5 months to 12 months

A weekly facilitated discussion on the journey from infancy to babyhood into toddler-hood. Connect with other moms and discuss:
-Sleep issues
-Behavioral issues
-Eating solids
-Breastfeeding or weaning
-Introduction of siblings
-Childcare solutions
-Returning to work
-Family dynamics
-Tapping into your own personal growth

  • Sleep Workshops: 1 to 2 hour group sessions for parents with babies newborn-1
  • What does a schedule even look like?
  • My spouse comes home in the evening and riles up the baby.
  • Is it OK to rock my baby to sleep?
  • Should I put my baby on a schedule?
  • How do I cut down on night-time feeding?
  • Can I sleep with my baby?
  • I feel guilty asking my partner to help at night.
  • My baby is 3 months, can I still swaddle her?
  • Is crying it out the only way?

Your questions and opinions are welcome!

  • Infant Massage: For precrawling babies

Massage is great addition to your toolbox of techniques to sooth and bond with your baby. Massage assists with sleep, colic, communication and relaxation.  Learn the techniques, routine and benefits of massaging your baby.

Infant Massage is taught in a relaxed, hands-on, one hour session with  Jessica Shapley, certified infant massage teacher, practitioner and licensed social worker.

Infant massage is a gift each parent will be able to share with their child throughout a lifetime.