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New York New and Expectant Mothers Event

Sunday, May 2nd, 2010

So- I was a part of the new and expectant moms event, yesterday.  It was sponsored by New York Family. I shared my table with Katie Kheil one of the dance instructors (and moms)  of Discovery Program (100th and West End).  Their program has been around since the 70s and provides programing for families from newborn through adolescents. Mommy/daddy and me, movement, dance, support, parenting programs and more  www.discoveryprogram.com

I got to see past participants from my groups and sleep clients on to their own mother-business ventures.  I have always felt that mother hood gives birth to new and different careers, as well.

I got to see friends and colleagues like Deb Flashenberg Prenatalyoga.com from Preantal Yoga Center, Felina from the Upper Breast Side www.upperbreastside, Joanna and Bianca from Metro Minis (www.metrominis.com), Laura Heller from babyfingers (www.mybabyfingers.com). I met Lance of  NYC Dads Group, which is “an active group of involved fathers in NYC”.  Tracy Gary from intuition-nutrition.com . I got to meet people in person who I have only had a virtual connection with.  People like Lara Paul from ikidsny www.ikidny.com, The car seat lady thecarseatlady.com and more

This is the first of one of these “trade show”  events I have embarked on.  I smiled a lot, schmoozed and collected a lot of goodies from the other tables.  They even had a free Gelato booth.  NO sugar for me tho, I kept a safe distance.

I also got to see a lot of my “past new moms”.  We are talking like moms onto their 2nd or 3rd baby- the oldest being 7 years and me feeling like the proud “grandma”- YIKES : )

I have been providing support and services to new moms and families for over  10 years.  Prior to this, I had worked with individuals and families; facilitating groups and providing service, for another 10 years. WOW, I’ve been at this a while. But it’s interesting, or maybe not.  It always feels new.

This work is something quite precious to me about working with a new mom or parent or family.  There is usually such an openness, a desire and need and want to build community around you and your (new) family. Each relationship, each family unit, each group of new moms finds a different energy and a different need and it’s great to be a part of this growth, inquiry and connection.

Thank you Mommies and New Families and Happy Mother’s Day!

Upper East Side and Inwood Groups and Events

Tuesday, March 30th, 2010

Metro Minis: New Mom’s Support Group- with Jessica Shapley

Wednesdays at 12pm starting April 14 at 12pm
6 session series
$120

http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

Bread and Yoga: New Mom’s Support Group - with Jessica Shapley http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

Tuesdays at 12:30 – Spring session begins April 20th

For moms and their babies, newborn-6 months

Topics in the group include: Mom and baby  wellness, breast  feeding,  bottle  feeding, sleep issues, staying at home versus working outside the home, isolation, childcare, family life, self image & more. Be a part of a growing community of new  families right here in  your neighborhood

Sleep Workshop – Tuesday, April 6th at 11am http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

Explore sleep solutions for the whole family. A talk for parents with babies newborn-12 months. We’ll talk about schedules techniques for calming age appropriate expectations and more……..plenty of time for questions

Infant Massage Workshop - Sunday, April 18th at 2pm http://momsupport.org/blog/?page_id=41

For parents and caregivers with babies newborn to pre-crawling
Massage is great addition to your toolbox of techniques to soothe and bond with your baby. Massage assists with sleep, colic, communication and relaxation.  Learn the techniques, routine and benefits of massaging your baby.
Infant Massage is taught in a relaxed, hands-on, one hour session. It is a gift each parent will be able to share with their child throughout a lifetime.
  • Please bring and extra blanket
  • dress your baby in 2 piece outfit
  • bring food grade vegetable oil (ie. olive oil, grape seed oil)

Calender of Events:

Thursday, February 18th, 2010

Sleep Workshop: Feb 22 at 12pm $20

for parents with babies newborn to 1. Talk about schedules, age appropriate expectations, calming techniques, identifying sleep windows and more.  Plenty of room for questions.

At: Discovery Program 251 w 100th street  (Morningside Heights)

Register with Discovery Program: 212 749 8717

New Mom Support Group: in Morningside Heights at Discovery Program. For Moms with babies newborn-6 months

Topics include: mom and baby wellness, sleep, bottle feeding, breast feeding, changes within yourself, changes within your family, childcare, returning to work and more

8 session series introductory fee of $120

At: Discovery Program 251 w 100th street  (Morningside Heights)

Register with Discovery Program: 212 749 8717

Mom’s Group for mothers with babies 6-12 months: Prenatal Yoga Center on West 72nd street.  212-362-2985
8 session series

Thursday, January 14th, 2010

Winter Newsy-Ness…

I am bringing New Mom’s Groups and New Parent Programing to you.  My goal is to connect mothers and families, answer questions and ease transitions.  I provide sleep workshops, teach infant massage and facilitate new mother support groups around the city, in a neighborhood near you.

I am thrilled to add The Discovery Program in Morningside Heights to my list of venues.  This is a wonderful program that has provided programing for families for over thirty years. Morningside Heights has continued to grow into a wonderful family centered community.  I am happy to join their commitment to serving new moms and families in and near Morningside Heights.  With the New Mother Support Groups moms will find their power to embrace the journey.  See you in the neighborhood.

Jessica

Schedules: Programs and Places

Discovery Program Morningside Heights
New Mom Support Group
www.discoveryprogram.com
251 West 100th Street
New Mom’s Support Group
Wednesday February 3 at 12:30
$155
Attention: This is NOT a drop-in class! | Pre-registration required
212-749-8717

Prenatal Yoga Center: UWS
prenatalyogacenter.com
West 72nd Street
http://www.prenatalyogacenter.com/cmps_index.php?page=events
212-362-2985

  • New Mom Support Group for moms with babies newborn-6 months

Attention: This is NOT a drop-in class! Pre-registration required
Mondays Class
Thursdays Class
both 2:30-3:30pm | 8 weeks | $155
Next Monday group: February 8 – April 19 (no meeting 2/15, 3/1, 3/29)
Next Thursday group: March 11 – May 6 (no meeting 4/1)

212-362-2985
http://www.prenatalyogacenter.com/cmps_index.php?page=events

  • Mom Support Group- Settling Baby: Settling Mommy(for moms with babies 5-12 months)

Attention: This is NOT a drop-in class! | Pre-registration required
$155 for new participants | DISCOUNT! $135 for returning 0-6 month group members
Mondays, 4-5pm | 8 weeks
February 8 – April 19 (no meeting 2/15, 3/1, 3/29)
212-362-2985 for discount!
http://www.prenatalyogacenter.com/cmps_index.php?page=events

Kripalu Lenox Ma
The Pelvic Floor and More
http://www.kripalu.org/program/view/YTEW-101/yoga_therapy_the_pelvic_floor_and_more

Bread and Yoga Studio Inwood
4951 Braodway at 207th 212 569 4112

  • Sleep Workshop Jan 12
  • Infant Massage January 26th at 12:30 to registser call 212 569 4112  $25 in advance, $30 at door
  • New Mom’s Support Group Feb 2 at 12:30. This is not a drop in class $125 to register call 212 569 4112
    ask about discounts if you sign up for more than one of Jessica

Wiggles and Giggles Playhouse Washington Heights
West 181st St at Riverside Dr 212 543 2393

  • Sleep Workshop for babies newborn-1 year January 21 at 12:15 register with Wiggles and Giggles 212 543-2393
  • New Mom’s Support Group Weds 11:30-12:30 Feb 3 $125 8sessions
  • Infant Massage

Metro Minis: UES
821 Park Ave at 75th
212-313 9600
http://store.metrominis.net/index.php

  • New Mother’s Support Group begins March 1 at 11:30 $125 Register with momsupport 212-781-6368
  • Sleep Workshop January 27 12:30 ($20 pre pay, $25 at door) http://store.metrominis.net/index.php
  • Infant Massage January 30 3pm http://store.metrominis.net/index.php


Program Descriptions:

  • New Mother’s Support Groups: 8 session series for moms with babies newborn-5 months

A facilitated support and discussion group for moms with their babies (newborn – 6 months)
Find the power to embrace the journey of motherhood with confidence and connect with new moms just like you. Share experiences, ask questions, and make supportive friendships.
Topics include:
mom and baby wellness
breastfeeding/bottle feeding
introduction to solids
sleep issues
staying at home versus working outside the home
isolation
childcare
family life
self image, and more.

  • Settled Mother’s Support Groups: 8 sessions series for mothers with babies 5 months to 12 months

A weekly facilitated discussion on the journey from infancy to babyhood into toddler-hood. Connect with other moms and discuss:
-Sleep issues
-Behavioral issues
-Eating solids
-Breastfeeding or weaning
-Introduction of siblings
-Childcare solutions
-Returning to work
-Family dynamics
-Tapping into your own personal growth

  • Sleep Workshops: 1 to 2 hour group sessions for parents with babies newborn-1
  • What does a schedule even look like?
  • My spouse comes home in the evening and riles up the baby.
  • Is it OK to rock my baby to sleep?
  • Should I put my baby on a schedule?
  • How do I cut down on night-time feeding?
  • Can I sleep with my baby?
  • I feel guilty asking my partner to help at night.
  • My baby is 3 months, can I still swaddle her?
  • Is crying it out the only way?

Your questions and opinions are welcome!

  • Infant Massage: For precrawling babies

Massage is great addition to your toolbox of techniques to sooth and bond with your baby. Massage assists with sleep, colic, communication and relaxation.  Learn the techniques, routine and benefits of massaging your baby.

Infant Massage is taught in a relaxed, hands-on, one hour session with  Jessica Shapley, certified infant massage teacher, practitioner and licensed social worker.

Infant massage is a gift each parent will be able to share with their child throughout a lifetime.

Breastfeeding:Did you know…

Tuesday, December 8th, 2009

information collected from the Healthy Children Project 2009/2010

Pumping at least 8 times a day for pump dependent moms helps establish and maintain adequate milk supply.

Pumping in short frequent intervals is very effective.

Ongoing nipple stimulation is required for ongoing milk production. Nipple stimulation triggers prolactin which causes milk to be made.

If you have mastitis, it is best to keep breastfeeding frequently from both sides.

Hurried and infrequent feedings have been found to be a significant risk factor for getting mastitis.

It is important to teat both mom and baby if one of you has thrush (cadidiases).  It is also important to clean all vectors (from pacis, to bottles,  things that go in baby’s mouth, nipple shields even towels being used).

Returning to Work

Tuesday, December 1st, 2009

I always thought I would return to work after my maternity leave.  Why wouldn’t I?  It was a no brainer. (I also thought I could “throw” the kid in the back pack and hike the Himalayas….not so much!)

After a  fearful start to motherhood which included  lactation issues, heightened anxiety and sleeplessness (duh)- 3 months came around and I was gearing up to return to work and low an behold, I was beginning to feel more comfortable in this foreign role as mom.  While trying to wrap my head around leaving my baby for a full time job (i did not love) was daunting and I was given the opportunity (family support) not to return to work and that became the “no brainer”.

This isn’t always possible. Moms return to (outside of the house) work in all sorts of ways;  Full time, part time, staying at home, daycare,  babysitter etc. As I often tell the women in my New Mom’s Groups: “No camp is perfect”. There are often challenges and positive parts to whatever we end up doing. For example, if you are at work all day and come home at the end of the day- you have a different freshness for being home with your little one.  You are able to be in that moment with your baby that  perhaps staying home all day and trying to get anything else done at home can actually keep you out of all those “baby moments”.  While working all day and missing the details of your baby’s day can be painful, some people use skype, a communication log and phone call updates to get them through the day.  My friend, who returned to work after her 3+ months off, told her babysitter “please don’t tell me when my baby does something new.  I want to discover it for myself. “  I also will add, after a year, back at work, she quit her job and stayed home full time (she had a second baby and gave birth to a second career, since).

There is  a lot of new that comes out of being a new mom, of course I haven’t even brought up work/career/identity/identity integration (that’s another blog entry).  I also have not mentioned the logistics, including  pumping and introducing bottles for breast feeding moms.  Often thinking outside the box, can be helpful (think flexible hours and schedules or  job sharing, babysitter shares).

No matter what, when deciding to return to work childcare is one of the main issues. I will say that once this is in place (and hopefully somewhat in advance of your first day) the focus then can turn to enjoying your baby, processing your torn feelings of sadness about leaving  her or perhaps  guilt about feeling excited about returning to your work environment (one you hopefully enjoy). It takes a lot of advance thought to figure out when you’ll pump, how your day is going to look and will your baby be happy that cannot be predicted it has to be experienced.

The New York Times recently had an article about returning to work (and even being pregnant at work) that addresses some of these issues  http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/22/jobs/22career.html.  Also a book that I recommend is Nursing Mother Working Mother by Gale Pryor.

Whatever you decide to do, whatever you have to do, you’ll make it work out.  It might not be what you had originally in mind, but it might be what evolves as your are paying attention to the details of your decisions. Oh, and by the way- it actually is not a no brainer

Healthy Children Project

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009

Promoting breast feeding information, support and services to moms (and families).

Did you Know: Skin to Skin baby wearing keep babies warmer, calmer, babies can hear their mom’s heartbeat, milk supply is improved and initiates a positive start to breast feeding, bonding, feeding on cue.

Did you know: Getting off to a good start at breastfeeding means nursing at least 10 times in a 24 hour period.

Did you know: When your baby is in REM sleep (rapid eye movement, when baby is not deeply asleep) is a great time to nurse baby.  This will happen beofre baby cries.  Sometimes when baby is crying they are a bit to frantic to latch on properly.

Baby opening mouth, rooting, making sucking sounds are all cues for feeding time.

Information provided from Health Education Associates and the Healthy Children Project/

What’s scarier, the swine flu or Halloween?

Tuesday, October 20th, 2009

OK- I need to be writing an article about Halloween for my column in Manhattan Times News, but what feels a lot scarier than Halloween is The Swine Flu.  Is it the symptoms, the death talks or the hysteria fueling my fear.  Recently the New Yorker did a good piece on the science and the fear:  http://www.newyorker.com/talk/comment/2009/10/12/091012taco_talk_specter Oinking aside, how much purell can I buy? My apartment is littered with it.  I have decided to get the shot, my kids have asthma, my mother has COPD and cancer and I work with pregnant women and babies. I have gotten the flu vaccine yearly since having children.  When my kids developed asthma the doctor encouraged us to get the vaccine and they tolerated it and did not get the flu.

My kids have gotten really pretty good about washing their  hands when they first come into the apartment .  I send handi wipes to school with them but is there anything else, short of wearing a protective mask?  http://video.nytimes.com/video/2009/09/11/nyregion/1247464538390/watch-out-swine-flu-.html

How do we protect our selves and others and not become obsessed? Our government regulating the vaccines add to the controversies that will arise as a result of a new vaccine on the market.  It’s hard to keep in all straight and clear.  There was a good NPR (National Public Radio) piece done about a month ago that addressed questions and concerns http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=1134

Juliet LeBien wrote an “editorial” while pregnant, lat month.  She is a social worker who works in infectious disease: She highlights the “higher risk” groups, such as pregnant women and young people.

In NY, there have been about 81 deaths attributed to swine flu; nationwide, over 600, putting the death rate at.04%. That’s the rate of death for seasonal flu, too. But here’s a contrast: the death rate for pregnant women who have contracted the swine flu jumps dramatically, and severe disease is far more likely. Mortality occurred mostly in the second and third trimester, with the third being seen as “more dangerous”, probably because the immune system is compromised for quite a while AND the lungs are “squished” allowing for the virus to overtake the lungs easily, pneumonias to set in, etc. Six percent of ALL deaths-around the world-are pregnant women. This constitutes, to those of us in stats, “unacceptable” rate. The Infectious Disease net noted early on in this pandemic that this particular flu seems to hit pregnant women very hard, with the theory being that maybe the deep penetration of the lungs causes severe disease.

NYC stopped publishing the “underlying conditions” of people who died of swine flu, unfortunately there have been some tragic cases of pregnant women in NYC and around the country and globe. These cases are very difficult for health-care workers. Many of the New Yorkers hospitalized for in “wave 1″ were pregnant women. I also know there were stories of amazing recovery! One woman (not in NYC) was put in a medically induced coma, C-sectioned, and aggressively treated. She did recover, after about 30 days post C-section and is now home with her child. Other women were successfully treated and could carry to full term, although they were women who caught the infection early on and took medication withing 48 hours of first noting symptoms. There is also a new therapy for severely ill people that involves IV administration of medication.

Just so you know, the flu shot is always a crap shoot, no matter what formulation of virus it has in it, so the risks are always the same. The flu is constantly mutating, so every year you’re getting a new, rather untested formulation. I’m heartened that this H1N1 shot is actually being tested on pregnant women shows me that people are serious about making sure it’s safe. The fact that this disease is really striking down younger people is troublesome. And while in most cases, people are fine, I can let you know that my 16 year old nephew in Louisiana who had it earlier this month was quite ill for a good 5 days (over 103 degree fever), with a cough that’s still lingering.
-Juliet Keeler LeBien, LCSW

The decision to inoculate is only part of  the battle, getting the vaccine is the other. Schools in NYC are supposed to be dispensing the H1N1 nose spray (not good for those with asthma).  Pediatricians are to receive it, but that’s a daily call to your doctor, so who knows when. The following site is the NY Gov site on flu vaccine and treatment:
http://www.nyc.gov/html/doh/flu/html/home/home.shtml.
City clinics aren’t due to distribute until November.

Alternatives to the vaccine, I just don’t know. I think no matter what, boosting our immune system, eating well, sleeping well, washing hands- are common sense actions to take. I wonder if Depok Chopra or Andrew Weil would suggest their grandchildren or pregnant family members get the H1N1 vaccine. I wonder if any of those individuals had  underlying conditions if that would influence their decision. I wonder if living in NY, riding the subway, going to a public school, being pregnant, having and underlying condition would influence anyone’s decision- in either direction.

And what about our childcare providers? In one of my groups yesterday, a mom asked if she could “make” her babysitter get the flu shot (her baby was under 6 months of age). I know at hospitals, right now, staff is required to receive a flu shot.  If your childcare worker is “on the books”  this might hold a greater influence for them.  The mom decided to pay for her babysitter’s vaccine and search for a convenient place for her to get it.  To get this shot is a personal decision, to ask your employee to get the shot and offer options for her, might be helpful. Forcing your provider to get the vaccine, I don’t see how that is possible.  You might want to review with your employee some calling in sick guidelines.  If your babysitter comes to work with a bad cold because she doesn’t want to “stand you up” this isn’t always helpful.  Decide what the parameters of coming to work when not feeling well are for you and your babysitter.

What are your thoughts about the swine flu and the swine flu shot? How are you addressing this issue? I’d love to know.
Jessica,
momsupport: Identifying the power to embrace the journey

Overview of flu trends in NYC http://nyc.gov/html/doh/flu/html/data/data.shtml